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A friend of mine posted this link on his blog, and I have to share it with you all: “A Few Like You”: Will the Church be the Church for Homosexual Christians? Reading it brought a few tears to my eyes. Although I am not a homosexual Christian, and I’m guessing that most of our readers aren’t, either (but if you are, hey! welcome!), I think this article is important for a few reasons.

It helped me gain a better understanding of what my friend, as a Christian urgently seeking God’s will and coming to terms with his same-sex desires, deals with as a part of his life. I pray that the article does the same for others. I’d always kind of avoided the issue, not wanting to offend anyone, and not really understanding the struggles of Christian homosexuals, but this has had to change, and I’m grateful for that. My previous attitude of avoidance/willful ignorance/revulsion remains, unfortunately, very prevalent in the Christian church overall, and the majority of believers have not done well in demonstrating Christ’s love and mercy when it comes to this particular issue.

Another reason that I thought this article was particularly important is its emphasis on human relationships in general. I think it makes several very good points that apply to all Christians, and especially singles of whatever sexual orientation. I can only quote the following paragraph:

I know well-meaning Christians who often remind me, “God’s love for you is better than any love you might find in a human relationship.” While I believe this is true in an ultimate and profound sense, putting it this way seems to set up a false dichotomy. A statement more in sync with the drift of the New Testament might go something like this: “God’s love for us is expressed and experienced mainly through the medium of human relationships.” [emphasis original]

This is where I have to say that, while I don’t know what it is like to struggle as a Christian with same-sex attraction, I can definitely sympathize with general loneliness. I have dealt with it in the past, and I know I will face it in the future, as many, many other singles do. So often in the past, when I found myself dealing with loneliness and hating being single, I would berate myself for wanting relief from it, thinking that I should be subsisting only on God’s love and His presence in my life. Thankfully, this mindset is changing.

Deuteronomy 8:3 says, “man does not live on bread alone but on every word that comes from the mouth of the Lord.” I think that could be reversed to say that man does not live on the word of God alone, either. We are humans with limited human bodies and human minds, and need sustenance. In the same way, wanting relationships with other people is not wrong. We are designed to need them. In Genesis 2:18, after creating light, the earth, the animals, and man, after declaring it all to be good, what did God say? “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”

God created us, and he created our way of thinking and our needs, and ways for them to be fulfilled. He created our bodies to crave water, so should we feel guilty to be thirsty? No, and as He created us to crave human relationships, it is not sinful to want that, either. (And I’m speaking of relationships intellectually and emotionally, as well as a sexually, just to clarify.)

I believe that when we allow those needs to lead us into sin, when we make them the central focus and goal of our lives and do not trust God to provide them for us, that is when they get us into trouble.

God intended us to need each other in this life. Galatians 6:2: “Bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ.” A Christian does not walk alone, and God did not intend him or her to do so. Don’t be embarrassed to want a relationship. Life can be lonely sometimes, and the support of loving friends and family are God’s provision for those times.

I must end with another quote from the article: “Will the Church shelter and nourish and humanize those who are deeply lonely and struggling desperately to remain faithful?


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